2016-10-01 / Entertainment

Reader fights for rightful parking spot

Sense & Sensitivity
By Harriette Cole

DEAR HARRIETTE: I live in an apartment complex that houses 20 people. There was an option to pay extra for one of the 10 parking spots immediately in front of my apartment. I did that, but I often come home to find my neighbors parked in my spot. I want to keep our relationship positive, but the temptation to get the car towed is getting stronger and stronger. How can I courteously deal with the vagrant who keeps taking my parking spot? –I Paid for This, Pikesville, Maryland

DEAR I PAID FOR THIS: Here’s a time to go directly to management. The negotiation that you made with your building occurred through a legal contract with the management. Take pictures to prove that someone is parking in your space. Watch the space for a week, and document what cars are coming and going. Provide your images and complaint to your super, and ask to have it remedied. Trust that the people who are using your space know that they are not allowed to do so. If necessary, ask your super to put a cone in your space that you remove when you park your car. Also, ask for reimbursement for the days you were unable to park there.

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DEAR HARRIETTE: This summer, I noticed a sad trend in my father. I would see him constantly darting to the bathroom more and more at family events. He is older, 70, and I know bladder and bowel control issues are more prevalent as one ages. I am not positive this is what is going on, but there can’t really be another reason he needs to use the restroom so suddenly. I want him to see a doctor, but he’s a private and prideful man. – Hustle to the Restroom, Fort Lauderdale, Florida

DEAR HUSTLE TO THE RESTROOM: Who is your father’s go-to person for health matters? If he has someone he trusts to help in such matters, defer to that person and explain your concerns. Otherwise, you will have to step in with grace and modesty. You can start by asking your father when he last had a physical. You can suggest that the year is coming to an end, and it’s good to get a physical on this year’s insurance. Often, older people appreciate thinking about saving money.

If he refuses, in private you should tell him the truth: You are concerned about his health and recommend that he have a complete physical to ensure that everything is OK, or if that’s not the case, that he can check it on time. If he remains against a medical visit, be more specific about his frequent urination. Tell him you think he needs his prostate checked right away. And tell him you will not take no for an answer. Figure out who his doctor is, schedule the appointment and take him. You can apologize for being pushy as you remind him that this is your job as his adult child.

— Lifestylist and author Harriette Cole is president and creative director of Harriette Cole Media. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.

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